The main logic behind the theory is that the only reason you would see a flaw in another person is because of a flaw with in you. How can you recognize something you are not familiar with? I can understand why some people do it, I just don't always agree with it. I suppose the logic under why some people do it dances in the realm of tough love, but i never was a fan of tough love. Then again I was never really exposed to it in my early growing years so I never started out being used to it until I could actually make concious decisions as to what I would believe and not believe. (I think I'm going to discuss that in a later blog, but I don't feel like being scatter brained today so I shall refrain from going into an independent spheel with a spheel ((or how ever the fuck that is called (((although right now I'm kind of doing that))) )) ) Maybe I just don't like the idea of hurting someone else, even if it may be helping them in the long run, because I myself don't really want to be hurt. But, that statement isn't really true because I tend to be rather masochistic at times, intentionally putting myself in hurtfull decisions. (another spheel another time).
Well anyway, back to tough love and saying mean hurtfull nasty things. Who is anyone to decide what is best for anyone else? I used to be super judgment a very long time ago and it got me no where and it got the people I told should change no where. I guess it got them stronger, and it made me less outspokenly preachy, but Jesus.
And maybe I am wrong, maybe saying shit like that is hurtful to another human being is helpful in the long run and if they can't get strong enough to deal with it through the process they don't deserve to not be bitched at.
I'm starting to confuse myself, but to go on:
but then who is anyone else to put out their anger towards someone else? God? Are they all knowing? I don't know, maybe they are just more able to see the end situation from me.
Or maybe it is weakness. That's the only way they can deal with a bad situation, make other people suffer?
I would preach being kind, but the entire world is not going to be changed, so maybe we should toughen up.
I admit I feel stronger after I get over things, but why should anyone have to get put through them? Why do people need scapegoats?
I guess it provides fun for other people, but at the expense of another human being?
Do people not understand that people have the ability to feel.
I think unless someones felt exactly what the person they are outwardly judging has been through they shouldn't add anything more to someone elses plate. Unless they want someone to add to theirs.
But then that gets to the who is above who area. Which is a dangerous area. Because I don't think anyone can consider the amount of variables it would take to figure that out.
But then why don't we all just go on instincts?
It would sure ensure the population problem gets solved.
I really don't think I can solve this.
There are too many variables and I'm not willing to accept the answer of we should all be mean to each oher and express our feelings. (which ripples off another though i dont have the time or energy to discuss.)
I'm going to to leave it at I think to much.
and he who casts a stone should make sure he is ready to get one back,
even though most people who get stones cast at them wouldn't throw a stone back, becuase that would just start a stone throwing war, which while exciting I don't think many people want to deal with.
And maybe angry people who say angry things are a sort of social evolutionary method of seperating the strong from the weak.
God I don't think I'm ever going to figure this out.
I don't know why I feel the need to, I haven't really been affected by any judgmental expressions towards me in a while (not to jinx myself or anything)
I guess its because I myself have been angry lately and have been fighting to
wow.
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